Am i good enough???

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Soo have yallever had a partner that constantly made you feel inadequate about sex, like you’re never “nasty” enough for them. He’s(25) way more experienced than I (18) am but honestly i feel like no matter what i do or what I allow him to do will never be good enough??  Please help Thanks💕💕

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Sounds like a scrub. Dump him. No one should make you feel bad about not wanting to do certain sexual things or act a certain way.

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I personally wouldn’t stick around with someone who made me feel badly about myself.

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No one should make you feel that way. He’s lucky enough that you’re allowing him to have sex with you. If he doesn’t realize that then bye ✌🏻

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He’s wrong. 
First all, you are complete within yourself and within your sexuality as a woman. 
He is complete in his, as a man. 
But he is no gentleman (and is thus an inadequate lover) if he doesn’t put your comfort and pleasure above busting the nut he is all but guaranteed to bust anyway. 
You’re 18 and inexperienced! He had almost a decade in you! He should recognize how important and defining this time in your life can be for you both emotionally and sexually. You’ve created ties for the first time with this person who KNOWS how binding and how wildly intense that is. And he’s not acting right, and he knows he isn’t, or else he would ask you about your comfort level, your limits, what you’re willing to explore, etc, and he would never try to manipulate you into diving into things you might need time to decide whether or not your comfortable with. 
You have every right to say hey we need to take a step back so that I can figure out how and if I can enjoy all the sexual things that turn you in... and discover what turns me on too. I realize I’ve been pushing myself to please you when this thing is really about both of us and about both of our pleasure. So from now on I want you to ask me about if things are okay and if I like them from now on and we can take it more slow. 
If he has objections then ask him: “so you want me to put your pleasure first and push myself outside of my comfort zone instead of showing myself the respect I deserve” and you can follow that up with “everything with a “but” attached to it is BS” if he says “no, but...”-anything. 
And if you decide you DON’T like something? That doesn’t make you less desirable. There’s plenty of shit I don’t want to do (get tied up [trauma] anal [I’ve done it before but he’s too big for that IMO], shower sex [personal preference], nudes [personal preference]) and we’re over here talkin marriage and all that. He respects my boundaries. And he wouldn’t be worth the time of day if he didn’t.

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Maybe you are not a good match for him and that is okay. You should not be with someone who makes you feel this way. You should not be constantly doubting yourself. That is not a good relationship will make you depressed. You will find another one who will think you are perfect!

Am i good enough???

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