My baby’s father is acting like a complete idiot because he wants to send our one year old away to Dominican Republic in the middle of a pandemic to meet his grandma ( his mom ).

First of all I’m by no chance willing to risk my child’s health or my diabetic mom’s health over a capricious flight. I understand they want to meet and I could completely understand that but right now it’s not the time to do so.

Second of all he got this on his head because His other cousin is sending his baby ( has got to be at least 10 months) away with the other cousin. I do not trust anyone with my child and she has like four other kids to take care of plus my child who is at the stage where he’s running around it’s just a big no for me. I cannot travel to a place of my liking because I’m a daca recipient so unfortunately I wouldn’t be able to go with my baby. He can’t travel either because of status and work &’ if something was to happen to my kid I wouldn’t forgive myself for allowing it to happen.

Third of all he had the nerve to tell me if we can’t agree on sending him away you should look for a new place to live . He says I’m over exaggerating. Lord give me patience and wisdom to deal with this man childddd. I assume that with this going on he would understand but no he wants to call me selfish for them not wanting them to meet. I do not oppose to them meeting AT ALL in fact I’ll be more than glad if they do because at the end of the day they are family but why the rush on something that can wait or be postponed ?! Especially during these times!

Now I have his mom up in my messages and lord she will hear my response 🥴 (respectfully) but she will get the message or so I hope.

Update : thank you ALL for agreeing with me &’ supporting. I thought for a second that maybe I should reconsider but F that ! I’ve been feeling so terrible this whole time because he makes me feel so guilty about the situation by saying things like I think his family is trash that I do not trust or like any one of his family. His sister and brother think I’m exaggerating and she also wanted to take my baby when he was about 6-8 months to DR I said absolutely not.

They said I’m the only clingy one because everyone in DR sends their kids away with anyone when their babies to meet family (just unbelievable)

His mom was up in my messages telling me I should send her grandson to meet her because I know she’s sick and if anything happens to her it will be on me because she will never get to meet him. I thought that was very manipulative from her and not nice at all because that I know off she doesn’t have any terminal Illness she had surgery to remove a potential cancer. Even if that was the case I STILL do not trust anyone unless my mom goes in my place &’ I will not risk her health or my child’s under any circumstances. I said to her well if you care about my son do not tell me that anything can happen to you as a way to make me feel guilty just so that I can send him away. That’s just plain selfish. I guess she got pretty mad because she won’t talk to me.

She probably said some crap to baby daddy too because well he won’t talk to me either &’ I took up his offer to find a better place to live with my child. I could care less what they think. There’s just no way for and it’s ridiculous the amount of times I’ve been pressure into sending him away.

She tried several times to get visa and has been denied but it was also because of mistakes in the processing on her end so not my problem.

What baby’s father said is just beyond me and childish I love my son too much to do that or put him through that stress. He breastfeeds too and imagine with strangers + no boob in sight to soothe him is just nop. I will continue to stand my ground pandemic or not pandemic I will do so until baby talks &’ MAYBE I will reconsider only if my mom is present at all times.

Mother in laws are beyond ridiculous sometimes 🙄.

Sorry for the rant but THANK YOU all so much for listening, I appreciate y’all !!!!!