Do you let your kids fight ?

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I have two toddlers and you can just imagine how that goes one minute they be sharing everything the next they fight for one toy. But I mean their still small. I do let them know that is not okay. They now push each other one pushes the other one, the other kid comes and pushes them. So I’m just like 😫😫 
So depending of your kids age do you just let me push each other around.? Do you tell them anything? Or your over it you just let them ?

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My sister got so sick of her 3 yr old daughter and 5 year old son fighting she just let it go one day and the girl whooped the boys ass until he cried and then the other brother called him a sissy now they hardly ever fight because he is scared to get embarrassed again lol

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Um no... how do you think they are going to treat other kids if they get away with that? I've repercussions of allowing this behavior first hand.. and trust me, you can loose some mom friends if your kids treat theirs like crap.

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I only have one kid now, but we plan to have more. I plan to mediate and help the kids talk through the problem without shaming one or both children for being “bad”. They’re not bad, they’re frustrated, hurt, tired, hungry, too little to empathize, etc. let’s talk through what’s actually going on instead of using shaming tactics.

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My kids are 9, 6 & 4. They're obviously bored since being home the past 4 months...They fight daily. I dont really intervene until they start hurting each other. We're drained over here! 😫

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I let my little ones handle it unless I see unfair or unkind behavior.  For example, if one is ripping toys from the other’s hands I return the toy and make them ask first. I usually enforce sharing/taking turns and hitting/kicking/hurting isn’t allowed. They’re 2 and 4.  
My older two kids have a lot more leeway to self-resolve their arguments. Usually I don’t need to intervene and on the rare occasion that I do, it’s usually just to facilitate discussion. They are 12 and 14.
I almost always intervene in the arguments between the 12 yr old and the 4yr old, because those two butt heads and the power differential between the two is huge.

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I dont have kids but I was a nanny for awhile and for me it depends on the fight. I usually would monitor the fight and make sure they were not being abusive while also interjecting with redirection but disagreements are normal with humans, letting kids figure it out (as long as its age appropriate) is important. Of course that doesn't mean let bareknuckle box in the back yard, just that they should be allowed to express frustration with one another and be encouraged to discuss the problem.

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My kids are 7 and 10. They fight almost daily. Never horrible fighting, just petty arguments. 
They usually hit eachother at least once them storm off and cool down. 
I don’t stop every fight, because I want them to be able to work it out between them.
They usually get over it pretty quickly.

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Mine are almost 3 and 4. They fight a lot. I usually step in if they’re hurting each other. But sometimes I just let them do whatever and work it out on their own.

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If they get physical, absolutely not.

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I’m not a parent but I do work at a church doing daycare. I always try to stop the kids if I see them hitting or pushing each other. I usually don’t get on to the kids that are just defending themselves. We have one that is known to hit and push so if he hurts another child and they hit him back I will tell them that we don’t hit but I don’t do anything further than that

Do you let your kids fight ?

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