Do you regret not TTC in your early 20s

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I'll be 30 in a few months. I want a second child but my Daughter is only 1. Married young I wanted to try right away we never used protection he was my frist. After 7 year of not even a false alarm I began to think something was wrong. After testing we did IUI and it was successful. we had our daughter. I always wanted two or more children if life and Finances permitting. I want to try in hope my body was kicked started lol and now knows what to do without fertility help. But I feel it well be vary hard or will not happen. I have mixed age friends and the ones that are in there late 20s early 30s say they want kids but have a list of things they want first. Apart of me is like I hope they dont have a much trouble as me TTC and the outher side of me wants to yell at them and say are you crazy womens dont you know if you waite to long you may NEVER have children. How do you feel? Do you wish you tried younger ? Do you feel inspired to tell outher women your struggles so they appreciate the time they have. Idk just my thoughts

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I’m 32 and have only just started trying. It wasn’t right for me in my 20s so I’m glad I’m trying now and not then. I wasn’t in the right relationship but now I am. 
I know it gets harder the older you get but I don’t think you should have kids in your 20s just because it’s easier. You should have kids when you are ready. 
What will be will be 🤷🏼‍♀️🤞🏻 hopefully it’s happens quickly for us all x

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Absolutely not. I didn't meet my now husband until I was almost 29 so I didn't really have a choice.

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I wish I started younger 🙋🏼‍♀️ I got married young- high school sweetheart (horrible idea)- ended up divorced 9 months after wedding due to someone (cough, not me) cheating and getting another girl pregnant. Met my now husband 6 months later and dated almost 4 years before we got married. Now fast forward we planned to try when I was 30, and somehow decided 29 was better- got pregnant after 6 months of TTC but sadly miscarried at 10w6d and it always in the back of my mind if things would be different if we started when I was younger. We’ve had testing done and all looks great- but then why isn’t it happening again?! ☹️ I hope this months our month 🍀🤞🏻✨

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I had my first child at 32. I am 36 and hoping for another anytime. Ultimately I would love 3 kids. But I am not sure if timing will be in my side for that. Maybe...who knows.
That said, I do not regret not starting earlier. I am a much better mom now than I would have been 10+ years ago. Everyone's mileage varies with that (there are great young moms out there, I just wasn't in a place where I would have been one of them).

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Nope don’t regret the wait!

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I didn’t get married until I was 31 (met my husband when I was 29), so I didn’t have the choice to start younger. We started ttc immediately after getting married and it took us a year to conceive. Now my son is 2 and we’re trying IVF for baby #2 after ttc with no luck for 2 years. I do wish I could have frozen my eggs when I was 20. I actually think it should be more common practice for insurance companies to offer fertility services so that women can freeze their eggs when they’re young so we don’t have to stress so much or suffer when we’re older.

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I don't regret waiting. I got married at 23 and even though we wanted kids shortly after, we decided to wait for circumstances rather than age. We were teaching overseas trying to pay off school debt, so the time wasn't right and we were travelling a bit. We did end up getting a surprise puppy off the street in China and then later one in Korea. They were our world and helped tie us over with the help of the Siamese cat we later got. 8 years after being married we finally have stable enough jobs close to family and our house that we waited so long for and are renovating. We can picture us raising our kids here. We also both work with kids and I know that I will be a much better mom now with the experience. I feel more at peace about it.

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Well, it's a tough question. Do I wish I could've started when I was in my 20s? Yes, but I didn't  meet my wonderful husband until later so it wasn't really an option for me. We got married when I was 33 and got pregnant that year. Now I'm 36 and trying for #2 and it's taking longer which is kind of a bummer, but I don't feel like there's anything I could have done differently.

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I started trying at 30. I'm 32 now and about to go thru ivf. 
No regrets at all. My life is what it is because I didnt have kids early and even tho I'm struggling to conceive, I wouldnt change a thing about my choices. Our struggles are more due to male factor so we'd still be struggling even if we started trying when we got married almost 6 year ago.

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I'm 32 and pregnant with baby 7.... I'm a mom to 6 girls 🤦🏽‍♀️ the hell was I thinking.... Needless to say I wish I would've had fun in my 20s.... Ur doing just fine I swear.... 😘

Do you regret not TTC in your early 20s

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