So, I have a situation that i want advice on. HUGE ENTANGLEMENT that i’m in. and i’m hesitant about continuing but i love this boy.

This might be long but please bare with me, it’s worth the read. my head is so spun with this sometimes 😓

So little back story we met on Tinder last year, i was just playing around on there and we met my first day on there, starting messing around in March/April and around July we made it official then broke up in August because i was dumb and went back to an Ex. At the time of the breakup he confessed that i was his bestfriend, only friend, and they he loved me.

Fast forward to this year in April, We’re now friends on social media and he hearts my stuff and we beginning talking again just as friends. and we starting physically hanging out again. I’m out of the relationship with my ex at this point and it’s for good.

BUT THE CATCH IS, he has a baby on the way.. I found out about a month before we starting talking again.....the thing is, it’s not like he went and had a baby on me it happened after we broke up and i didn’t know that we may cross paths again of course. He’s not with the babymother and never was. It was a “sneaky-link” type of thing, he says they did try a relationship (not sure if it was before or after the pregnancy) but pretty much the thing is that, She’s bitter.... like she constantly bashed him online and he’s done absolutely nothing to the girl.

He finally opened up to me sometime last week and described their whole situation and i can tel that she stresses him the hell out. He’s a good guy, no signs of deadbeat no where. He’s looked out for her during the pregnancy and she still does, but she just constantly is bugging him! I’m talking she bashes him horribly online for no reason, she literally putting nothing but lies of him online, and i know she lying because she’s saying he’s gay and having HER friends text his phone with threats of child support. that’s all she’s saying and saying he hasn’t done this and that. 1, hes 100% not gay chile omg. and 2, i know him from top to bottom at this point he’s the sweetest person, annoying like any boyfriend can be, when i was with him we never even had one argument or disagreement because that just NOT what he does.. Even now when she’s saying all these crazy things about him or sending weird texts he ignores the COMPLETE F* out of her. He also decided not to speak out on her actions because she’s pregnant and don’t wanna stress her out (Genuine right!? He didn’t even tell his family that she is bashing him like this and his mom just met her last week, But doesn’t even know this girl is bashing her son like that and even throwing threats to keep him away from his child?)

She literally just has so much hatred in her heart for him. Like guys, she on social media saying “my daughter loves her stepdaughter” blah blah, like the baby isn’t even here... and i’m 10000% sure if my boyfriend said that.. she’d be upset?

she sends him these crazy texts, like IE she wants to cancel the babyshower now because her friends aren’t gonna help her. He originally gave her the money for what would be needed (not sure what she do with it) so i told him don’t even respond to her just ask you mom to do it (because hers isn’t) and she responds “Why can’t u do it” .... Like?? She blocks him on and off and from the looks of what he showed me she is starting arguments with him out of no where at time.

I’m just so stuck because i love him, and knew i did before we broke up the first time! He’s started venting to me about his problems with her and how she is REALLY stressing him out at times, and i really want to be there for him but how can i? I’m only 20 years old going on 21 next month, is this an entanglement i want to deal with? we’re all the same age. The baby is due in September and I just don’t know how things would change for us. He says it won’t but then i’m just constantly thinking about, “Will i have to meet this girl?” “Are we serious enough that he wants me around the baby?” “Do i really want to deal with some and their babymother?” IF she will truly be bitter towards me and if it’s just him she “hates for no reason” ive never met her tho so i’m not sure how she may act.

And since we’ve started talking again i’m noticing how we are starting to act as if we are in a relationship. Like since reconnecting we went from just hanging and chilling to the point his friends know i’m back around, like his parents have seen me around but we’ve never officially met yet (he met my parents after i invited him over for father’s day, but i only introduced him as my friend). We don’t have titles right now either so that’s why i’m also so stuck on how things may go whenever his baby comes

I asked him last week, what are we doing and he said “I don’t know what to call it” 😕

Y’all please help I just don’t even know, how can i be there for him? I feel like our status is VERY serious, but i just don’t know how to address how i feel about the situation? How do i ask what may happen to us, in a way i can get an actual answer not just “oh nothings gonna change” Like, do i have to deal with his babymother if she is that way? Do i say something to her? I’m sure she may know of me at this point or maybe not but one of her friends added me on social media.. i have family members in situations similar to this but, Never with a bitter baby mother. Him having a baby doesn’t bother me, life happens, it’s the baby mother and the bitterness she gives off!

Also just asking because if we decided to continue our relationship, how do you go about dealing with the child’s mother if i’m truly going to be around?

(I’m also trying to convince him to tell his parents about her actions and everything she’s said she him and about him online, he screenshotted everything, he said he will though)