My boyfriend is 35 and his son just turned 9. Am I the ONLY one who finds it weird and not right for him to still be sleeping with his child?! Like there’s been so many times I’ve gone to his house and instead of sleeping with me he sleeps with him! He tells me I just say it’s wrong because I’m jealous! And really I’m not the kids a whiny brat! The son cries when dad sleeps with me all the time! I was dads first relationship since his baby momma so its always been father and son. Makes me feel like I’m getting in the middle of them but again he’s 9 and should be sleeping alone! He doesn’t sleep with his mom and stepdad he sleeps in his own bed there! Why is it always such an argument when dad tries to sleep with me?! It has gotten so bad to the point I don’t even want to be around the child and I know it’s not fair to dad and child but its not fair to me either!The child brags to me when he sleeps with dad. My boyfriend also gets pissed off at me cause I won’t let the child sleep with us. He tells me that’s punishing him.. punishing him for making him sleep in his own bed like a normal child?! Like say what??! I’m just not comfortable with it at all! The child makes comments about my boobs my butt. Its AWKWARD! Please help! I love this man but this child has definitely put a strain on this relationship!

Oh yeah before I forget! This child dictates fathers every move! Where he eats what he eats where he sleeps what we are doing at this time where we can go in the vehicle what we say what we can’t what we can buy what we can’t ect! I stand my ground because a child isn’t going to tell me what to do but then father and I argue 🤦‍♀️ This child has told father in a passed relationship he didn’t like the girl so dad broke up with her.. wth! Please give me advice other then ending the relationship! I’m not one that just gives up and moves on I want to improve our relationship. Please help

****Before jumping down my throat like half of you already have just know this child is out of control! He has ODD bad! He swears all the time even when told not to! He was in trouble this passed school year so many times he almost got kicked out! He got kicked off the bus too for a week! He also told a kid to F off and to suck his dingy! I’m asking for advice to fix the situation! I don’t have children so every step is a learning one for me! We’ve been together over a year and idk how to make anything better! Don’t shame me give me advice that’s why I’m here!

UPDATE! This child cries when we’re about to go to bed! He can’t even get his son to sleep in his own bed.. he begs to sleep with him and cries and cries until he gets his way! He does this EVERY night he has him! Even when I’m not there.. I just had a litter of puppies and I lost the mother about a week after she gave birth so I have been bottle feeding 9 babies. This child goes and STEPS on a puppy the second he walked into the door 🤦‍♀️ like it was the only puppy that was walking loose at the time and I know he seen it cause he asked why it was out! Then later he took a cardboard box and slammed it down on the puppies 🤔 then later on that night the father was on the phone and the child was full out smacking him in the face. THIS WAS ALL IN THE MATTER OF 3hours?! I do tell him when I think he’s being a brat and I do threaten timeouts and I do take his things away. His ODD is just getting worse and neither of the parents are doing anything to solve it! Mother just puts the kid on Adderall.. cause that will solve things?! He’s only getting worse as the days go on. I don’t think he’s resentful of me he tells me I’m his favorite all the time. 🤷‍♀️ Sometimes this child asks his father to kiss him the way he kisses me.. And that is extremely odd and weird to me! I feel if something isn’t corrected soon with his behavior he’s going to have a chick knocked up by 14 or have been in trouble with the cops by then.. I’m not sure why everybody is so rude that I said he’s a whiny brat! Like you have never thought a child was a brat in a store before?! 🤔 LIKE I SAID IM ASKING FOR ADVICE NOT SHAME!