Ingrown hair

I’ve had ingrown hair/boil like spots on my pubic area ever since I started shaving. (Not more than 1/2 at a time) I’ve been shaving regularly for 4 years. I’ve tried everything. (But I’d love any more ideas) I’m self conscious for when I actually get down with my boyfriend. I’m a virgin, he isn’t but I don’t know if this is normal. I’m nervous to get fully naked, he’s seen me nude before but actually doing the deed what if he finds my 🐱 unappealing. He’s very sweet and often tells me how much he “craves” me etc. I just don’t know how to get over my self criticism. Side note I’ve recently lost a lot of weight almost 50 lbs and I have stretch marks so I’m still learning to love my own body as much as he seems to.