I work 2 jobs I support him he doesnt work at the moment due to things that are personal I pay his bill and mine

I cook and clean for him and his whole family and I try my very hardest to be a good gf after 3 years he told me he treats me like a child becuse that's how he sees me an emotional child that cant do anything without him idk how to address this or even if it can be he also asked me how it felt to screw up even the littlest thing and all I am is defensive what can I do