Getting Fed up with Husband

I am around 16 weeks pregnant and I am working full time. I also do school full time online and will be starting that again in August while juggling our 1 year old.

It seems like every weekend I spend my time scrubbing our house and cleaning up all of the messes that my husband has made. He will make dinner and not clean it up. He complains about loading the dish washer, etc. it's to the point where instead of relaxing I have to clean my whole weekend just to do it all again the following weekend.

I don't know how to even handle this situation anymore. I am getting burnt out between being sick, raising our daughter, and then having to take care of absolutely everything. It seems like anytime I tell him about it he argues that I do nothing and turns it around on me.

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Ha

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Leave it! The mess I mean. Only clean up after you and your kid. Let him see how much of his mess accumulates. You don’t have to tell him you’re doing or tell him. But if you tell him, tell him you’re not going to clean it up until he learns how to pick up after himself.

Ni

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Read the book “Things I wish I’d known before I got married” by Gary Chapman. There is a chapter about chores. Do the activities attached to the chapter!! Sounds like both of you feel like the other isn’t pulling their weight. The activities help you identify ALL the chores it takes to make a household run and identify who does what. GOOD LUCK!!

Ji

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My wife and I have a deal where if she cooks I clean up dishes and vise versa. We both clean on Sunday as that’s the day that we chose and works for both of us. Marriage (or relationships) are supposed to be 50/50 and when the other half isn’t holding up his end of the deal, it’s added stress on you which isn’t fair. I would sit him down and have a talk with him. Ask him if the roles were swapped how would he feel doing it all? Or you can take the other road and let him see the mess pile up to make a point(that would drive me crazy but it’d make a point).

De

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You need to have a conversation with him and be serious about it. I know exactly how you feel! If I were you I just wouldn’t do it relax and enjoy your child. Let him do it if he thinks you don’t do anything.