This is sort of just a vent:

I posted the poll asking if what happened to me was rape (sleeping, waking up with him on top of me). It was a toxic, abusive relationship that was coming to an end. I was trying to break up and distance myself from him, but I was kicked out of my home at 18 and had nowhere else to go. That’s when the incident(s) happened. He did it to me more than once. Am I wrong for realizing it was rape so long after the fact (about 2 years)? The poll was almost unanimous, but it wasn’t like he held me down and forced himself on me. I don’t want to minimize what happened to me, but I also don’t want to minimize other people’s traumas. I just find myself feeling deeply disturbed by what happened. Thoughts?