So I’m 25 and I don’t live with my boyfriend yet. I still live at home with parents. And he lives at is parents house .

His parents are so chill, laid back, and don’t care what we do so they are fine with me sleeping over in my boyfriends bed in his room.

I’ve been sleeping over a lot the past few weekends because they don’t really care. He also lives 45 minutes away from me and it’s a good excuse to just say I don’t feel like driving home late at night to my parents.

So I told my mom that I was probably going to sleep over again this weekend and she made a comment like oh, well that’s weird you’ve been doing that a lot lately. Like you mine as well live with him. She was like “why don’t you have him sleep over here???? Why is it more comfortable to be there???”

My parents aren’t the chillest people, my house isn’t the most welcoming and it’s sooo boring here. My house is very nice but there’s a cold vibe when you come in. My dad can be a prick to ALL of us, he’s verbally abusive and just an asshole at times. So that’s number 1 why I don’t want my boyfriend coming over.

Number 2 is because my mom would have him sleep in the guest room and not in my bed with me which is just weird. What’s the point of a sleepover? It’s not like we’re going to have sex or anything.

His house is just so much more welcoming I guess? I mean he has more siblings and it’s not much but you can feel the love in that house. I love my family but they can be too much and my dad always insults us minutes before my boyfriend comes (he’s done this a lot in the past) making me feel like complete shit about myself.

Idk what to do. I know my boyfriend is buying a house within the next year or so and then I plan to move in, it’s just hard in the meantime