Haemorrhoid

Little embarrassing as most of the posts people are pregnant if they have a pile. Anyway around 5 years ago I was constipated and I produced a haemorrhoid. I haven’t been so worried about it until now as I’m hitting a stage in life were I’m becoming sexually active. I’m too embarrassed to go to the doctors and have tried most things to make it go away but I’m scared I have had it for so long it’s now apart of me. Any suggestions lady’s?? Also does a man realise it during sexual activity’s ?