Help 🥺

How do you stop having feelings for someone at work?

Here my predicament, I can’t quit my job, I can’t change departments, I can’t stop working with him, I’m stuck on this shift for a year, and I have to be friendly with him because I can’t have a beef with someone at work. They fire people who dont interact with others. So im stuck being around this guy. He’s a total sweetheart and a big flirt (with everyone not just me) and I definitely have developed feelings but that’s not ok because I’m married. My husband and I are struggling at the moment and while I know he loves me. my husband hasn’t been putting effort into the “love bank” (ie, he doesn’t attempt to romance me, other than the fact that we hug and kiss and have sex every two weeks.) so I’m trying to keep my focus on my marriage but it’s HARD. This guy looks at me and my heart skips a beat, I can’t help it and I hate it. So how do you stop crushing on someone? I need to see him as ONLY a friend/co worker.

I feel like I’m in danger because it’s obvious he is struggling to not have feelings for me. He practically said as much. He’s not deliberately out to get me, but I’m still afraid of being “gotten”, if that makes sense.

Please don’t hate me, I already hate myself!