Anyone else’s boyfriend?

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I’m not shaming here, it’s just different for me is all. My boyfriend has a fetish called feedism or feederism. It’s where you like weight gain and big bellies and eating and stuff. I grew up with multiple eating disorders so it’s still different to me. He always reassured me that it’s my body and I don’t ever have to do anything. I lost about 80 pounds within the last two years which ultimately became unhealthy so I’ve gained about fifteen pounds in healthy weight and he loves it! I just wanted to see if there’s any other SOs that have this fetish or if anyone else has heard of it. Wasn’t sure how common or uncommon it is Update: I just want to be clear that my boyfriend has never asked me to change my body. I felt I was underweight, or too thin for my preference, and decided to gain weight first. I currently weight about 140-145 at 5’3. I’m healthy and I look great and he agrees. Says he loves me fat, skinny, and in between. He likes chubby and pudgy, not fat. He’s an athlete and so am I. We play sports together occasionally

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I've heard of it but never encountered it in the "wild" per say. But I do have to question how safe the relationship is if you have previous issues with eating disorders. Excessive eating can be just as bad as not eating at all.

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I've heard of feederism. Its a form of partner abuse shrouded loosely as "fetishism". People call it a fetish as a way to garner tolerance for something that can harm their partner and ultimately lead to their untimely death.

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I’ve definitely heard of it. I’m trying to decide if my boyfriend is this way. We haven’t been together for long but he’s always trying to get me to eat. He especially loves cooking for me and when he does he watches me eat and then goes “I love watching you enjoy my food” lol.

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I don’t think this is a positive or normal fetish. Even if you are underweight and gain massive weight in your belly that’s still the dangerous fat. Also changing your body to fit someone else’s sexual desires isn’t normal. Especially since you have an eating disorder I hope you don’t jump into this. Under weight, normal weight, anorexic, overweight, this is not good or healthy. Food has nothing to do with a person sexual desires and he’s basically asking you to change in a dangerous fashion you deserve better! Any common being would know not to ask a person with an eating disorder to start a food fetish.

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I have the same fetish, although it's mild. My boyfriend has a little bit of a beer belly so it's perfect lol 😂

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You seem like you are at a healthy weight and just because he has that fetish I don’t think he’s putting that on you because being 140 is not fat at all. He can have his fetish and if he’s not making you change your body then I don’t see the problem. Hoping that his feedirism fetish is just that a fetish and not his sexual preference.

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Nope not mine