Why are spouses so hated while TTC?

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I don’t mean all the time or everyone are like this but i noticed a lot especially on this app that men are treated like shit and undermined during the TTC process. For example, if a man just isn’t in the mood for sex during ovulation or mentions that it’s hard to stay in the mood because it becomes solely baby making, they’re pretty much strung up like a horror and told they need to suck it up and get over it, but if roles were reversed they’d still be treated like devils for only wanting their wife to be a baby making machine. So why is it as women we put this toxic standard on our partners?

Accepted Answer

I don’t know why people are saying they haven’t seen that, someone literally posted something like this like ten minutes ago lol. 
I see this all the time on here and it’s just gross. I really don’t understand how some of these women manage to still be married because they’re so awful to their husbands. Goes both ways obviously, and obviously it’s not everybody. There’s just so many awful people who treat their spouses so disgustingly.

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I think that most woman come and post here in a moment when they are frustrated and maybe angry. Trying to concieve can be very stressful for a lot of people. What woman say here dont necessarily reflects how they actually treat their husbands. It just a hard situation and people just let things out. It might come from a place of frustration and when people are angry they tend to just say whatever they feel in the moment. Plus this is basically annonymous which give others freedom of just saying anything. You can curse while writing here but that doesnt mean you curse at your husband. Is just woman expressing themselves and letting that anger out.

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I haven't seen that here lol honestly. It happens occasionally and people get told to chill out and stop trying to make ttc a chore

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I don’t see a lot of that but what I do see is the sex life ruined because some women tell them it’s ovulation time. At least my husband doesn’t want to know that, he likes spontaneous sex so if I know it’s that time of month then that’s what I do. I think planned sex in general just kills the mood for all couples.

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So my husband was actually the opposite and was so into making babies. He wanted everything tracked. It was a mission for him. I actually had to be the one to say hey if we are not in the mood it isn't happening. Love making needs to be fun. So I hear what you are saying but this app is heavy sided on women and there are two sides to everything and truth is somewhere in the middle.

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I agree with this. I think that men are designed a specific way and “scheduled baby making” doesn’t jive with their design. Any ounce of pressure and the mood can tank. This clearly isn’t the case for all men. But my husband and I did the scheduled, stressful TTC a few months back, and all I gotta say is my top level sex drive husband even fell out of the mood to do it. Which literally never happens. 
So that tells me it does have a negative impact on their sex drive and can make them feel stressed out unnecessarily. 
God intended this process to be fun 😭 I know that isn’t reasonable for everyone, especially those who struggle with fertility. But this is something that should be kept in mind and I think women do need to be more understanding and respect their husbands throughout the process.

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My my bf is the COMPLETE opposite. Even when I'm not ovulating hes always ready and willing. "Babe, practice makes perfect!!" 7 years together and a 3 year old you would think hes be over it by now but the moment I tell him I'm ovulating hes getting our daughter occupied she we can have a quicky. All 3 days hes like that so caring and understanding.

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I have no idea since I never have been trying like that. But I agree some ladies become obsessed with making babies and can really ruin the sex itself.

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Honey bc this is America and women here are so entitled and privileged and we literally think everything is all about us and our needs and wants. Travel to other countries and you'll see how good we have it in America.

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I have not seen this but it should not be a thing , as a female when we where Trying it got that way for me as well it gets frustrating an felt like work so i understand feeling that way male or female

Why are spouses so hated while TTC?

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