Washing Question! 😸

Y’all...my dad raised me so i just never had anyone to teach me these kinds of things. I’ve always used soap on my lady parts (I’m talking even “spreading” and washing around my clitoris, etc) but I see everyone say you shouldn’t. I would like to start doing things the appropriate way...but what IS right? Like can y’all break it down for me about where to use soap and where not to?! What kinds of soap? Or do you just use a washcloth and wipe out the inner folds? 🤦🏻‍♀️