DIFFICULT HAIR AND HAIR STYLES!! Please please help

Q: has anyone actually tried the hair straightening perm? How did you like it? Was it super damaging?

So this is my hair. It doesnt look that unmanageable but thats becauae 1 it has product in it right now and 2 its long so its weighed down and not as poofy. Whwn i get out the shower and dont put anything in it, it gets FRIZZY and THICK. Like no ones ever been able to run their fingers through my hair. Its a bit flat bc I slept on it.

BUUUT I would love bangs. Or a hair cut like this.

I would LOOOVE to be able to rock this fringe but my hair isnt straight enough and i dont want to straighten it all the time. So i feel this is unrealistic and it crushes my feelings. ANY stylist i talk to says bangs wouldnt work on my hair type.