Ready to lose my virginity but can’t😤

Sooo my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and we have been ready to have sex for a very long time!! We have tried before, many times, and even gotten a hotel room so we’ll have all night to try but every time we try I can’t get pass the pain of it. Can anyone give me advice or tips??

* When i day I’m ready... I’m readdyyyy