How do you stay connected with your S/O?

Question

Ok I'll apologize up front for any typos. I'm nursing a baby to sleep and my phone is super far from my face. 😂
So I've been with my hubs since 2014 (married since Jan 2018). We have a 9 month baby, so i get that we are still in the whole "find your groove in life with a kid" stage, but oh my soul.
We've never been great with communicating face to face. In college we just texted all the time because life was busy and bible college doesn't really let you pair up and actually talk alone in person. Also, we lived 1700 miles apart, so when we *weren't * at school, it was still just texting and never actually spending good, meaningful time together.
When we got married, we lived about 1500 miles from either of our families, and between that and some issues we had before we got married. I feel like we're just roommates. I've been working on myself as far as healing from past traumas, and hes a great guy, but its just not there emotionally.
I WANT it to be though. How do you get that excitement back? What are some things you do intentionally to keep your relationship solid?

Answer

I think every new parent goes through this with their spouse! Before covid happened, we would do date night once a week. That was so great for the both of us! We needed that time together away from the baby and work distractions. Now since covid is still here, we try to watch a show/movie together. He attempts to make a date night at home too, which is super sweet. Just a pizza and a drink, and a movie. Nothing crazy but the effort he puts in it makes me feel special. I had to sit down with him and let him know how I was feeling, and he opened up and let me know he was feeling the same way. Relationships have their funks, its how we handle it and respond to it that show how strong you are together.

Answer

I definitely endorse date night. It is important to be HUSBAND AND WIFE while being parents too..if that makes sense. You should never lose touch of who each other are and date nights without the kids allow this. My husband and I have been together almost 20 years (since HS!) and we went through a couple rough patches since getting married in 2012. I had even filed for divorce in 2015. But we talked it out and decided to start "dating" to find each other again. It worked and I'm so happy it did cause he's my soulmate and I've never loved anyone like I love him. I got pregnant with our daughter in Nov 2015 too...so everything worked out for the best!

Answer

Having a date night is a great place to start. Also if you guys set time aside weekly to talk about household things, schedules for the week, financial stuff, etc, just helps keep everyone on the same page. I found doing more stuff together as a family really helped my husband and I. We definitely went through that roommate stage when our daughter was that age

Answer

Date nights. Could even be a night in. Cooking dinner together from scratch. That’s something my husband and I love to do. We don’t have a baby, yet, but I guess finding something you enjoy doing together. We love cooking together. He’s much better than I, but I’ll sit and be his audience and it’s always fun.  As for communication, it’s important to have good habits for this. My last relationship we had terrible communication. I was afraid of making him angry. Now I’m so much more open. Just start with trying to being more open and communicating, and keep working at it. Counseling is always helpful too if needed.

Answer

It takes a lot of work. My husband and I actively try to do things together. Is he listening to a podcast? Then I’ll listen, too. Then we can talk about it and share our thoughts. 
We both hang out with our baby before she goes to sleep. Nearly every bath is both of us, probably because we don’t want to miss anything in these early days. 
Sometimes it means doing something I’m not interested in, but I can read a book and be near him and savor the silence (baby sleeping). It’s honestly about opening up that line of communication and then keeping it open. We talk about everything, and we call each other on our crap. And then after we call each our her out to know ‘hey,
I don’t like that’ we love on from it. We don’t dwell on the bad but keep moving forward.

Answer

Plan date nights, even if that means take out at your kitchen table. Put down the electronics and start talking. Maybe it just starts with talking about a tv show you both like or maybe you just right into where you see your family in a few years, what you love about life right now and what you would change, etc.

Answer

Girl I'm in the same boat (sort of)  been together since we were 14 li:ing together since 18 and now have 1 year old and second the way and we literally just had a big fight last night bcuz I've been trying 2 tell him for months I wasn't happy and I didnt feel like we were a couple anymore. Barely kissed and only said I love u when saying goodbye on the phone which is a habit with all friends and family. He tried to pull the baby card but I reminded him if he has time for video games he can spare time 4 me 2. I suggest talking to him and let him kno how u feel. Maybe even txt it since thts how u 2 have managed to communicate best through ur relationship,I kno I've done it b4 and it actually helped get the point across. Best of luck hun 💙💗💙💗💙

How do you stay connected with your S/O?

Let's Glow!

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey