So I’m struggling with managing my sexual appetite with the fact that my partner is not as sexual driven as I am. She thought for awhile she was an Ace ( someone who doesn’t enjoy/need sex) which I was totally fine but freak out with solely for the fact that I really enjoy sex. Fortunately after abstaining from sex she found she did desire to be sexual with me, but we’re still working out how often that is. I don’t want to intiate sex anymore because I do not want her to feel pressured by any means but I’m also the more dominant in our relationship so if I do not intiate sex there will likely be none to be had.

I’m wondering if anyone has any suggestions about how to make my partner feel more confident in taking charge that way we can have more communication on when she wants sex. She is a people pleaser by nature and I have a hard time trusting her word when it comes to sex because I know she wants to please me and may push aside what she truly wants because of that. I by nature am much more sexual and want us to explore more things in the bed without feeling like I’m making her.

Looking for any wisdoms on how to guide her into a more sexually promiscuous relationship in a way that makes her feel safe. I feel as though she doesn’t trust me with her body fully, she’s often very hesitant with anything new I try or even things we’ve done before she can become jumpy with. I want her to trust me with her body. We have been together for 3 years for context.