How can I satisfy my sub bf when I’m a sub too?

We’re both 24 and been together for a short while (4 months).

We are pretty similar in many personality traits, I find it comforting to have someone understand me so well but I do really enjoy my opposites sometimes.

Sexually I am satisfied with being submissive 90% of the time and maybe “soft dom” 10%?

I love being taken, owned, and ordered around but here and there I’ll “take what’s mine” (not too often though only when I’m in the mood)

My boyfriend has a soft energy and when he takes me it’s very gentle. But I get confused when we sext and he talks about enjoying me in a “soft dom” way. He likes it when I take control of the movements or if I become top but it requires me to focus too much instead of enjoying the moment too.

I want to please him but I feel like we are too sub for each other. I feel like this is weird and it does make me worried if we will lose sexual interest with each other if we can’t find a way or something to satisfy us both.