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Married at 18?

Je

Jen

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half I love him with all my heart and we’re both financially stable. We both have our own full time jobs and we’re wanting to move in together. The problem is my parents said if I want to live with him I have to get married. I love him but we don’t have enough money for the wedding I want and we won’t be able to invite many people. The problem is you only get married once (for most) and I want to make it special. I’ve tried telling my parents that we want to still be able to live together but wait on marriage just so we can make it special and actually have a ceremony. When I told them this they said they wouldn’t help with the wedding, they would cut me off financially and they wouldn’t pay for my college. Does anyone have advice?

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Sa

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If you’re really sure and ready to marry this guy I say get married and move in together. You guys can get married legally and have a ceremony at a courthouse or a similar place and have a small dinner after with both of your families. And then you both can save up and in a year or so have a big ceremony with all of your friends and loved ones. A ceremony and all of that can happen at anytime. With all of this Covid stuff going on (not sure where you live and what that looks like) a wedding of your dreams may not be entirely possible anyway. If your parents aren’t satisfied with a small legal ceremony for the time being then they probably have other issues.

Sa

Sav • Sep 8, 2020
Also if you get married legally, it will impact your financial aid for school

Cl

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Why does your mom think so? ? She should know that maybe 18 is too early or that the money is insufficient. I don't like this. I would still move in together..

Ra

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Dont get married at 18... honestly I would just get an "apartment" for college close to college and if it's far away from your parents they won't know... his stuff would be there anyway due to the relationship and being in college 🙄.. But seriously I thought i knew who I was and who I loved before college.. but college changed me, I grew up and the guy I was with didn't.. as much as I thought he was the one (we were even engaged) I did not stay with him through college.

ma

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not to disrespect ur parents or anything but ur literally 18 do what ever the hell u want with ur life. trust me ur parents won’t disown u for moving in with ur bf
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