Someone tell me what to do.

I’m 23, my brother is 33. We currently live in the same household and I dislike him. I moved in with mom three weeks ago due to a separation, and my plan was to stay with her until I finish school but at this point I’m not sure I could do it.

Interaction with my brother feels like nails to a chalk board for me. There’s some things he does that rub me the wrong way and I do not talk about it to avoid disturbing the peace in the household. For example, he’s lived with my mom for 7 years and has never paid a bill. My mom is 57, makes minimum wage as a CNA and works 2 jobs! I cannot respect that he’s lived here this long and does help out with rent. Not only that, he does not have a job, smokes weed in the house and basically sells it out my moms house. He tries to hide it, but I see right through him. He does not clean up after himself, and won’t do anything to make my moms life easier. He will do little things if I’m around, for example he’ll wash his dishes if I’m in the kitchen, but if it’s my mom or grandma he won’t. There’s so many messed up and frustrating things that he does. My mom has tried talking to him but he will tell her what she wants to hear, and won’t stick to what he says.

He is very bold about his disrespect with my mom, but is passive about it with me because in the past I’ve said something to him about it. Now, I do my best to avoid him. He tries to be a charming and likeable person when really he’s a pos. It also makes it hard to address him about certain things. I don’t know what to do. I get frustrated when he talks to my toddler. Should I?

Btw I’ve paid $600 this month and plan on paying that every month to help out with rent. Since being away in the military I’ve always sent my mom money. For those wondering how I’ve helped out.

I think what bothers me the most about my brother is that I use to look up to him, then one day I started seeing how disrespectful he is towards our mother and I lost all respect for him. My mom is kind hearted and understanding and has tried and tried to encourage him to get his life together. She asks him what his plan is and he gets defensive about it or will make something up. She has given up trying because she has high blood pressure, and claims she’s done worrying about him. Sad to say I’ve to had get aggressive with him ( aggressive with words l) in the past about his BS. It worked and he actually got a job and cleaned up but I don’t have the patience for him now. I’ve been biting my tongue for so long, I truly feel like I might put my hands on him this time. He is unreasonable and hard to get through.

As far as me not wanting him around my son. Some weird situations happened. For example, he tried to have sex with our first cousin. My favorite cousin who I am close to. Also, when I first got married, he secretly told my husband that sometimes women need to have hands put on them because their argumentative... yeah I know.