How do you and your partner initiate sex?

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I've been in a 4 year relationship and initiating sex is something I'm not good at. Usually I would just be direct about it but I want to try out other ways of initiating or hinting at sex.

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I struggle with this too. I've been with my husband for 4 years. We cuddle a lot. When he wants it, he'll start with kisses, then put a little more passion into them and I get the message.
That doesn't seem to happen the other way around as I'm much more subtle than he is. When I want to try something more bold, I'll put on a sexy ligure and sit next to him. He usually responds by finishing up whatever he's doing (Xbox, YouTube, studying) and it's go time.
I've been trying to find a bit of a middle ground. Something more than just a sweet kiss (he never picks up on that), but not as involved as an outfit. I never want to make him feel obligated, but the thought of putting on an outfit and him not being in the mood terrifies me. (Issues from a previous relationship. I'm working on it.)
Not that we're TTC, I just say "I want to have sex today" or something along those lines. I feel awkward asking. It's 100% out of my comfort zone. I also feel like it makes more of a transaction than something sexy and romantic. I want to find a way to keep the passion and fun in sex.

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I read something once about a couple who had a candle in their bedroom that one of them lit whenever they wanted to have sex. ￼￼

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I’ve been with my husband for over 10 years now and I feel like we just know at this point 🤣 We have a ‘look’ that we give each other and that makes it pretty obvious. Usually a quick make out sesh also is pretty telling. Or we just straight out tell each other “wanna have sex?” That one works too lol.

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I back myself up to him so his junk is against my trunk, lmao 😅 works like a charm. He tells me to go strip down, it's pretty direct haha

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Hunni... want Nookie? 🤷🏼‍♀️ 
The word sex is cringe so we use nookie always have done. 6 years later and it still makes me chuckle 😂

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It depends. Usually he’ll start rubbing my ass and wait for my response. Sometimes we firmly touch each other, like if we’re holding hands I’ll rub his hand with my thumb firmly. We started doing this because in the beginning I felt too awkward asking. Well do that sometimes still but it’s usually him either rubbing my ass or just straight up “can we fuck?”

How do you and your partner initiate sex?

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