Husband told me we’re not “real family”

So, we’ve only been married about a year now, but dated about 5 years prior to marriage. Anyway, there have been a few times when I needed his help and he let me figure it out on my own. For example, I was cussed out by a drunk man in front of the whole neighborhood once and he just sat there and didn’t say a word. I got into a fight with my step dad once and my husband just sat there even after my step dad tried to hit me and threatened my life. Every time his friends are disrespectful to me he doesn’t say a word to them, just tells me that they were joking and I’m being dramatic. His family has even talked shit about me and he just agrees with them and never defends me. I’m not saying I want him to fight my battles but I feel like he could at least stand up for me.

Whenever his mom or sister have been in situations like this he gets super heated and rages about how nobody should treat them badly. He’s quick to stand up for them, doesn’t think twice. I’m not saying I don’t want him to stand up for his mom and sister, but I wish he would do the same for me.

I asked him one night why he doesn’t stand up for me like he doesn’t them, and he deadass just replied with “we’re not real family”. It really hurts my feelings and I don’t know what to think about it. I asked him to explain what he meant by it and he just said he married me by choice, but that he has to be there for his mom and sister. I agree with him, he should be there for them. I asked him why he married me if he doesn’t see me as family, and he said we’ll be family whenever we have kids together and explained that kids are what makes you family and that without kids we’re just a couple, as if a ring and saying “I do” isn’t enough to make somebody family. I honestly don’t know what to think or do. I feel like I’m being dramatic and have no reason to be upset, but it really hurts to know he feels this way.