How do people make love that trying to have a baby?

Heather

How often do people make love when trying for a baby. My husband hardly looks at me recently. We have been trying for 8 months, we are both plus size. I feel he not caring for my needs or wants to start a family. He won’t even get his sperm tested. Do you have any helpful advice or feedback please. Feeling very depressed and can’t stop crying.