So my ex and I grew up together along with my friend group so naturally, after breaking up, they continued to be good friends with him and we’re often invited to the same events, included in same group chats. I don’t like this but I get it and don’t say anything unless I’m really uncomfortable.

Now we didn’t end on friendly terms. He cheated on me (which I kept pretty secret from our friends for a while -now they know) and he was emotionally abusive towards me and claimed suicide during our breakup. The breakup process took forever and it was absolutely draining.

A couple of months ago my friends hosted a party where my ex was in attendance and the girl who he cheated on me with. They weren’t there together but I did not want to be there and was called immature and told that I shouldn’t care. I’m not mad at her, I forgave him, I just my don’t want to be around all that.

Fast forward to present - they are all planning on getting together for his birthday and I was included in a mass text and I kind of just want to be like “I wouldn’t go even if I could” lol I don’t care all that much about him being there or not at a random event but I don’t get why they’d think I’d want to celebrate his birthday. I have a bf now so I especially don’t want to be around my ex all the time out of respect for my relationship and to that I was told that I’m letting him “control” me. My boyfriend says absolutely nothing except he doesn’t think I have good friends.

Am I being unreasonable?