Feeling ashamed for wanting to have sex😭

Hey mamas. I had my baby two months ago, and have really been struggling with feeling ashamed for wanting to have sex. My husband is in the armed forces, and was gone through my entire pregnancy so I haven’t had sex since thanksgiving of last year. Now that my husband is home, I thought that we would be physically intimate, but every time I’ve tried to initiate sex or express how I’m feeling about physical intimacy to him, he reminds me that I should be focused on my child and not on selfish desires like sex. And he’s even gone so far as to say I’m neglectful as a mother for wanting sex instead of just to care for my baby. At first I was like “whatever, I’ll take care of the urge myself” but even thinking about it makes me feel guilty and ashamed. I can’t get my husbands words out of my head.

Has anyone else gone through this?? Thank you.