Things that helped me heal after miscarriage

You don’t think it will happen to you until it does... it doesn’t make it any easier or take any pain away but I didn’t realize how common it was to have a miscarriage. I am 1 in 4. 💙💗 I’m still healing... I found out I was pregnant on August 4th and miscarried on August 8th. I have never felt so empty and heartbroken. There are no words to describe what I felt or what any lady feels when they go through it. I just felt and feel so sad. My husband was great but they don’t understand it as much. I wanted to share a few things that helped me to heal and I’m still healing. I don’t think you ever fully get that piece of yourself back. So I hope these things can help someone else. This is long... I apologize but I hope I can help someone else.❤️

I took a few days off of work just to allow myself time to grieve and so that it wasn’t so fresh when I went back to work. I allowed my employer to let my co workers know what happened that way I didn’t have to relive it over and over again or more than I had to. Where I work, we are like family. All women and we all genuinely love and care for each other. I wouldn’t of been able to go back to work without being questioned so it was nice of my boss to let them know for me.

I had a friend that went through it a month before I did. It was nice having someone to talk to and understand what you’re feeling when you don’t even know how to describe it yourself. We confided in each other and even though it was hard to talk about... the more we talked the easier it got and the more I felt like I was healing.

I surrounded myself with positive things. I listened to my favorite church songs and read and am still reading Christian based books. I actually found a devotional that helped me to cope. The devotional is called Loved Baby. It’s 31 devotions and it helped to make me feel less alone and make my feelings feel valid. I highly recommend to every girl who has experienced miscarriage or pregnancy loss.

I recently joined a Bible study group. WAY out of my comfort zone! But I’ve enjoyed surrounding myself with broken ladies like myself.

I took up journaling... I had a really hard time sleeping at night. When I started journaling and writing down all my thoughts it really helped me.. emotionally, mentally and I slept better at night because I was channeling all my thoughts and controlling them.

I also purchased myself a cute little bracelet off of Etsy by a shop called Beautiful Soul Designs. It’s a simple pink and blue bracelet that I wear to remind me of my baby that I lost. I don’t want he or she to be forgotten so this was my way of remembering. And I’m the only one that knows what it means and makes it feel so special.

I also found some blogs on Pinterest of some girls that went through a chemical pregnancy like myself and I found comfort in knowing I’m not alone and that someone has gone through what I have. This might be silly too but I follow some Tik Tok accounts specifically kierra_b_art. I found her videos so comforting! Not feeling so alone has helped me tremendously.

I know this was long and appreciate those of you who read it... I hope that I’m able to help another hurting momma by sharing some of the things that helped me to grieve and heal. Prayers to all of you momma’s... as well as sending all the baby dust 🌈👼🏻

Xoxo,

Nickole