Am I selfish?

So, today I turned 30, my husband is a truck driver and isnt home.... i have my two kids here with me, and I am thankful for that...

Well I expressed to my husband that I do not feel important or special because he did not get me anything at all for my birthday, no card in the mail, flowers, nothing.... he replied with this " is a roof over your head, Bill's paid and food in the fridge not good enough for you?" Well of course all or these things are good enough, but I would have loved to feel important, I've cried all day off and on, my kids have been acting terrible and my husband is now pissed off at me, saying he knows how I truly feel now, and that nothing is good enough for me and that I have no reason to feel this way.... I just wonder if I am being selfish, I am sitting here, crying and just overwhelmed to the point of breaking down. I need advice. What a great 30th birthday this has been 😭😭😭😭