I need insight

A few weeks ago I disclosed too my boyfriend that I had been raped for 3 years only for my mom to not believe that the rape even occurred. I was on the edge of a nervous breakdown because earlier that day my mom had disclosed too me that my brother had been violated by a man whom he thought was a woman... I told my boyfriend that I feel he was violated or somewhat taken advantage of, my boyfriend is very homophobic he’s from a third world country where they do not believe in same sex together. Well I told him an he immediately asked is my brother gay not that I care about his sexuality but it had nothing to do with what I said my brother was uncomfortable because who he thought was a woman was actually man that did not disclose that proper gender. I took his words too offense because like I said I’ve been raped an have had it made out to be my own fault even though I was just a child....after explaining my brothers situation I let him know why his words hurt me, moving forward are relationship is much better as far communication but since then I’ve just been stuck in my head thinking about me, my brother & every one still having too battle this 🥺