Please give me your opinion on this.

A few weeks ago my mother tested positive for COVID. In the midst of that she lost her job. Thankfully, she is negative now and is trying to work full time at the second job she had where she worked part time. Immediately after testing negative she has picked up double shifts at the job she’s at now and it saddens me to see that because although she is negative, her body still needs rest. Btw she is 58 and works as a CNA, her job is not easy on the body. I offered to pay her entire bill for this month but she kept declining. So I paid half.

I moved in with her a month and a half ago because of a separation. I hate to see that she has to work this hard to make ends meet. She has a boyfriend who is paying his share of the bills, and from my understanding the finances have been going well up until she lost her job.

Here is my problem, I have a brother who is 33 and has been living at my moms house for 7 years and never paid a bill! Never has a stable job, has a child of his own that he rarely cares for, uses my moms car doesn’t put gas in it, plays his game all day, is loud and inconsiderate, the list goes on!!! Because of this, I have resentment towards him. I have no problem helping my mother with bills but I also think it’s time he steps in as well. My mothers rent is 1170. I could throw in $300 and he could throw in $300 as well, that will help a lot. Technically, I could pay the whole $600 if I had to, that’s what I’ve been doing but he is a very capable young man and it’s time he steps up. I’m now a single mom and I have to pay for my daughters daycare on my own, I have plans on moving out and getting my own apartment which I will be paying on my own. He needs to help out so that my mom won’t be stressing over trying to make ends meet, it hurts me to see her in this situation. She’s a hard worker she’s been working 2 CNA jobs my whole life.

My mother has tried getting through to my brother, he gives her false promises. He knows she won’t kick him out. I joined the military when I was 18 so this is my first time living back home, I’m 24 now. You may be wondering well why not stay? I’m trying to stay for as long as I can, until my moms situation is stable again but I know that I need to move out right after that because I cannot be around my brother. He’s one of my triggers and for my mental health I need to keep my distance from him. Plus, I just need my personal space as an adult and parent.

Please give me your opinion on this? What should I do?

Oh! I definitely want to talk one on one with him, but there’s been situations where I came to visit and I spoke on some of the stuff I noticed about him, and none of my family members had my back. I hear them complain about it, but none of them speak up when I call him out on certain stuff. My mom just tries to defuse the argument, because that’s what it turns into, an argument.