I still can’t orgasm

I have a vibrator and that’s really helped me figure my body out. It does the job most nights but I only have had one big O once when I was drunk with myself. I think about that one moment all the time and nothing can compare.

Recently I have got a partner and he can’t seem to get me to climax. We do the foreplay and all the things and I just feel like it’s not working. I definitely get close but I just feel like it’s never hit “the spot”. Similar to that feeling where you were about to sneeze but don’t. It just really annoys me and I feel bad because I think it’s really discouraging for him. We are very communicative, but I am out of ideas on what to tell him to maybe try.