How can I help my friend whos having a baby? (Possibly)

If my friend chooses to keep her pregnancy, how can I help once baby is born?

I just want to clarify, I haven’t pushed her in either or direction. I don’t want someone to jump down my throat.

There are a few possible fathers. One of them is really awful and she doesn’t want a baby with him and she’s having a DNA test done soon (yes it’s possible and they do it by blood tests because the babies DNA mingles with the moms, and obviously they can spot the fathers DNA in there as well. So they will draw blood from the guy and her and test it in a lab) and yes the abusive guy is willing to give blood to test.

But her and I did the math once she found out exactly how far along she is at the doctor, and I have a pretty good feeling that the abusive potential father isn’t the father. It just doesn’t make a lot of sense for it to be the abusive guys baby, based on timeline and when she had sex with who and when her last period was and who used a condom or pulled out.

I have a really strong feeling about that. So I’m already thinking about how I can help her out after baby is born.

Just because I said that I think abusive guy isn’t the dad, doesn’t mean that the other guys are.. the pick of the litter.

SO, she will be a brand new single mom living at her parents house who both work full time. Her siblings are grown, out of the house and have their own kids and she will need help. Obviously since she lives with her parents things like groceries and all that will be kept up. Her parents are well off, she won’t go without food or formula or diapers so she won’t need help with that.

And that is an absolute because she’s her dads favorite, he built her a freaking house that’s connected to theirs. There’s no way her dad is letting that baby go anywhere or without everything it needs. So that’s out of the question she won’t need help in that area.

I’m thinking I can spend the weekends with her and let her shower/eat/ sleep without having to worry about baby.

Having a baby by yourself is scary. This whole thing is really scary for her and then all the hormones on top of that, I know the hormones make everything so much worse.

This is my best friend from childhood. If motherhood is what she ends up choosing, she won’t be going it alone and in the dark.

If you have any idea how I can help her out in those early days when she’s adjusting, advice is welcome

I want to say it again. This is my best friend in the entire world since childhood. I don’t care what she does, I don’t judge her and I love her. Please be kind and withholding judgment