Is he an alcoholic? Am I a push over

So my husband and I are both 26 with a LO. We’ve been together since high school so it’s been quite awhile, been through so much shit together.

He’s an amazing dad to our son and works hard in his career. His family has a history of alcoholism and drinking to them is just what they do as a family. Growing up my family never really drank so for me to have a good time, I don’t need to drink.

My husband has been trying to be healthy lately and do good. But recently he started drinking again after work. Works been stressful so I get it. Throughout our time together there have been a handful of times where he’s drank so much, we get into an argument about something so small and stupid but talking to him when he’s like that there’s no rationalizing with him. He’s never gotten physical with me but there have been times when he’s just cursing and yelling just pure anger. Again he’s never touched me or called me names, just angry. It’s not all the time this happens when he drinks but it’s enough times where I don’t want it to ever happen again. I’ve talked to him about seeking counseling but he thinks they’re just going to blame him. Idk. He’s so emotional when he drinks he says it stems from his parents. There’s just so much underlying issues idk what to do