Cheater Cheater

Today started like any other Monday...and then I got a message from a woman claiming to share an inappropriate relationship with my husband.

She told me he has sent her almost $1,000 for pictures (cash app screen shots provided), has tried to meet up with her when he’s in the city for business and told her that he loved her. She provided a Snapchat screen shot of the pictures she had sent them but no conversations and also no pictures of himself that he sent her. That screen shot included the number of interactions they’ve had. 24,000. He has interacted with this woman 24,000 times.

His side of the story is that a year ago around the time I gave birth to our youngest, he felt fat/gross/unattractive because I didn’t want sex. So he got on a porn site and ended up connecting with this woman there and moved their sexting/picture exchange to Snapchat. After he did it he says he knew it was wrong so he cut it off after just one time. He claims that after this the woman began blackmailing him. Saying if he didn’t send her random amounts of money as she asked, she would contact me. So he sent it. We just recently began sharing a bank account so I literally had no idea the money was missing. We keep a decent amount saved up so I had no clue.

I’m really hung up on the 24,000 snap chats. If it was a one time thing, why so many? He claims it’s from her harassing him for more money for the last year. But it still seems excessive to me.

He swears that he never met her in person and it was never physical. All online. And just that one time.

Anyway, I’m not sure where to turn from here or what to think. I trusted this man with my entire heart and now I feel so broken. Has anyone been through this? Any advice?