Being intimate pt 2

So to start Off This will be tmi but i have like a rash down below My Area (vagina) and i thought it was a heat rash , But now im not so sure i think im allergic to the body wash i was using now i changed soaps of course . But my Husband went to work all day yesterday from 8:30 to 5 something so i missed him alot , Its hard adjusting anyways later that night we took a bath and came back in the room , Remind you im still sore down there from the rash and from times when we tried , key word tried to do it , But we end up getting lubed up now this type of lube is a warm touch & At first it wasnt a problem yes it hurt still to fit him in me because Its tight down there , So We tried positions nothing worked some felt good others still sore , Like really sore .. So sore im freezing up closing my eyes trying to get through the pain sometimes i do , this time i couldnt ... He applied more lube and when he went to insert i was burning . So bad i thought ouch this hurts , i told him and i also told him to keep going to see if itll stop , he did and it continued to hurt i had to stop& so we stopped we didnt make love , 🙁 I initiated that even if he couldnt penetrate me we can do other things , i wanted to go down on him to give him something special we could still be intimate that way in my eyes but he thought it was just a way to substitute our sex life . , im unsure what to do i felt like he didnt want to be intimate through another way.