My mother in law and I have had our issues. They're really not horrible but boundaries have been crossed and my fiance is a complete mamas boy who like his sister even said. If she were to slap our one year old son, he would have an excuse to defend his mom. So I have tried speaking with her and she got offended because I told her she hurt my feelings. She held a grudge . But I tried again. But she just kept doing little things like raising her voice at me and rolling her eyes at me. And being passive aggressive. Everytime I try to be cordial and respectful. She does these little things. So anyways, his family who is way into our business. Is always trying to force this bond thats too much in my opinion. We all went to dinner and his dad (they're divorced) switched seats so she could sit with me and she was passive aggressive but I just went along with it. And now, my fiance is trying to give me these ideas to go to her house for Thanksgiving and use her kitchen and have her teach me how to makes certain food. There are many things wrong with this picture and I don't mind going to visit but having this bonding let's cook together and have this bonding moment. Its not going to work and only forcing it makes it worse. I get where he's coming from and I have tried but some people just can't be best friends and just be cordial and respectful. What should I do ?I think baby steps . Not some big thing thrown at you. And seeing how she is with her own kids and others. Yelling at them and being ocd and complaining and judging is not my idea of a nice bonding time.