I’m normally not the jealous type. But my bf just did something that makes me feel weird...

I went up to the couch to sit next to him and noticed he was looking at some pretty girl’s profile picture. Like he had clicked on it so it was large on his screen. I didn’t get a good look because I just happened to glance at it and he QUICKLY closed out when I sat down next to him. But he closed out and it went back to his notifications that said this girl just accepted his friend request. So i didn’t think anything of it. I wasn’t even trying to be nosy, my eyes just fell on it and I kept looking and that’s why I noticed it all. I really did not think much of it at first but as a few hours went by it popped up in my mind again and I just had a weird feeling about it.

So I checked his recently added friends on fb and thought I’d just see who it was. Well, now I have a really bad feeling in my gut. This girl is gorgeous and looks EXACTLY like his ex. But like a 10x more beautiful version of his ex. And I dontmean that she just had the same hair color and some features..because his ex had a very distinct look. She had big teeth and blue eyes and bleach blonde hair, and this girl had the exact same distinct features except she looked like so much prettier and wears more makeup. I was just shocked to see how similar she looks to his ex and how gorgeous she was.

On top of that, she has a lot of cute cat pictures and my bf is obsessed with cats.

AND even weirder, they have no mutual friends. Like why would he add her? How does he know her if she has no mutual friends with him (and they both have almost 1,000 Facebook friends.) She’s just a random girl from the area..she lives in the same town as us.

Normally I’m not the type to get jealous of social media nonsense but lately I’ve honestly not had the best self-esteem! This girl looks professional, she wears professional, cute, well-put-together clothes in her photos and the reason it makes me feel bad is I lost my job due to Covid. Ivefelt like an unemployed lazy loser these past few months. I’ve felt depressed for the first time in my life and so I know I’m not living up to my potential because there’s just been so much going on that’s been getting me down. So here I am laying on his couch with greasy hair, applying for jobs and procrastinating on my homework and getting worse and worse grades in my online classes..and he added this girl and is looking at her pictures with her put-together clothes and nice hair and makeup😂

My question is should I ask my bf about it or am I being overdramatic? The thing that worries me is I see so many people who say their SO cheated on them when they thought they NEVER would and that you should always look out for red flags. And iveliterally NEVER had a reason to not trust him before. But again I see that all the time, where someone seems so trustworthy and then cheats.

Or even if he’s NOT cheating, he could be fantasizing. I know he’d never cheat but what I don’t know is what’s going on in his mind. Again my self esteem has been low lately, and I’ve never been this self-conscious in my life. I’ve been unemployed since March and I finally got a job that I thought would be regular but it’s only event-based and so far they’ve only had one event per month. I’m still applying to a ton of jobs in the area but I’m not heating anything back (because duh everyone is applying in this area..I just got laid off from Disney along with 28,000 others so I’m not surprised I’m hearing nothing back from these jobs).

Being laid off from Disney has just been making me feel not good enough. Like I’m not good enough to work there, who’s to say I’m not good enough for my own bf? So I know why I’m feeling this way but I can tell if itsjust this rough time that’s making me more paranoid and self-conscious or if it’s actually weird and I should say something? I just have a bad feeling and my stomach hurts so bad now.

And please don’t be mean!! I’m normally not the jealous type and social media never usually gets to me but I’m just at a weird limbo in my life right now where I’m trying to figure out what to do..and that consists of me being jobless and getting bad grades in school and not living up to my potential and feeling like a bum. And when I first met my bf I was working 40+ hours a week and I felt like I had my life together. But since March I’ve just been this different person and I hate it. Especially since I got the news of getting laid off just a month ago.

Thanks ladies. ❤️

Update: thank you so much for your input everyone! I did bring it up to him but ....I still have this bad gut feeling! Because he just played dumb. I always always always trust him but there was even one time before where he played dumb to something when I just simply asked him a question and it turned out he actually did know what I was talking about and he only played dumb so I’d drop the convo. So this time I feel like he’s doing it again😖

So I just said “hey I just have this bad gut feeling because I saw you looking at this pretty girls picture on Facebook..” and he goes “what? Who? What do you mean?” Probably playing dumb just to get out of the conversation , but then instantly he said “that girl who added me as a friend with that weird name? I don’t even know who she is,” and he pretended like he didn’t even know her name. He said “she friend requested me and I was just looking to see if I knew her.”

BOY. That is not what happened lol. HE friend requested HER so that’s sketchy of him to lie about. Be he was acting like he had no clue about a thing, saying “I don’t even know her name,” and “she just randomly friend requested me” and all this stuff. But I said hm, that’s just weird because it looked like you friend requested her..

And now idk what to do. He just said “idk sorry you feel this way.” And ended the convo. But he was looking at her pic, full screen on his phone, and when he hit the back button it said “[girls name] accepted your friend request.” So he clearly added her, and when she accepted he clicked on the notification to bring up her page and look at her photo. Because when you hit the back button, it goes to the last page you were on...so...

And the notification didn’t say HE accepted HER request..it said SHE accepted HIS. And he lied and said she friend requested him. But he’s being so wishy washy. Like he’s playing dumb saying “idk she added me I think? Idek who she is. Idk what you’re talking about.” And normally I believe him, he’s trustworthy, but it’s like he’s just being so back and forth and then started acting like I was crazy for asking. And said with attitude “you donthave to get jealous just because I look at another girls picture.”

Another update: I told him I know what I saw, it said that HE added HER, not vice versa and he goes “I just genuinely have no clue who you’re talking anout. This other girl added me today and I didn’t know who she was so I looked at her pic. I thought you were talking about her.” He seemed to genuinely not know who I was referring to and as it turns out, he does have mutual friends with the other girl who’s pic he was looking at. Although it’s weird that he would look at her pic AFTER adding her (would make more sense if it was before since he’d be tryna figure out who she is) he said he honestly has no clue what I mean, so it wasn’t a big deal or anything malicious. I could swear he was just playing dumb and actually had a reason to look at her pic but he told me it wasn’t a big deal, he doesn’t even remember doing it so I have to just swallow my pride and believe him lol. Even though it’s easy to believe he’s just playing dumb, I’m trusting his word first and foremost. And to be fair I look at peoples profile pictures sometimes..I look at photos they post..I’ll randomly go onto someone’s page and scroll through their photos for fun..whether they’re attractive or not. So I know it’s no big deal. It kinda rubbed me the wrong way and if i think about it too long it’ll probably make me suspicious again so I’m just gonna trust him and move on from it lol. Thank u everyone ☺️