Do any second time moms not feel particularly connected to the new baby? 😓

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I have a 17 month old, who is very demanding (but adorable) 😅 he has some developmental 
 disorders and is very exhausting during the day, and I just don’t feel I’ve had time to bond or connect with the new baby and I’m worried when she’s born I won’t feel as connected to her :( with my 17 month old I was excited every scan, talking to him in my belly, laying and feeling all the kicks, and I don’t feel the same way this time around.

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I felt more connected to my second than my first bc I wasn’t such an emotional wreck.

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I think it’s pretty normal because we just don’t have the time like we did for the first. We have another vying for our attention 24/7. I feel guilty at times for the same reasons, but I know once we hold our little ones for the first time, it’ll be just like the first!

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I was honestly just feeling this way today! My son is almost 14 months and he came a year after losing my first in the second trimester. I truly feel like my son is my miracle baby and I adore him. I’m struggling with connecting to my current pregnancy. I’m having a little bit of gender disappointment as this is our last baby due to me being so high risk and we’re having another boy. I’m really excited for another baby and know I’ll connect to him immediately but I’m struggling right now.

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This is my third but I feel the same. I also have a very demanding hyper 19 month old boy. He takes all of my energy. My first two were 9.5 years apart so I didn’t feel this disconnected. I’m just chalking it up to being so busy.

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Yes!!! This is my fourth baby and my last three were 7 years apart so by the time I was pregnant they were independent enough where I felt like I bonded with baby while pregnant. This time I found out I was pregnant a week after my youngest first birthday and he’s always on the go so
I do sometimes feel like I don’t have that bond or that I even forget I’m pregnant.

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I am having complications with this pregnancy. Bleeding, a hemorrhage, and now placenta previa. I found out gender because I wanted something positive with my pregnancy. And its helped a little but im still worried vs excited most days.

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I felt this way up until about 2 weeks ago when I RELALY started to feel her move around (like this baby never sleeps y’all!!! Constantly kicking and squirming and doing flips) after that I began to feel more connected but still nothing like my first. I’ve talked to my husband about this and he feels the same way (it’s hard having a toddler right there in front of you that literally takes ALL your focus from the moment you wake up to the minute they go down at night and have time to focus on anything else). We talked about it and decided that only 3 things matter and are FACTS (even though we might not feel it now):
#1 - we love our son to the moon and back and having a second baby will not diminish that love at all - we will just have more love to give
#2 - even though we don’t feel as connected to this pregnancy as we did with our first, that doesn’t change how THRILLED we are to have our family grow!! 
#3 - we know for sure that as soon as that little baby is in our arms we will fall madly in love 😍
Hope this helps a bit!

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I’m in a similar situation. My 2 year olds has a speech delay so he’s just now starting to talk but it’s still sounding like babbles. At night is when I get to bond with and actually acknowledge the baby growing inside me.

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I've felt that way some days. I don't get as worried when I get a new symptom or as excited when the baby is moving a lot, and I don't keep track of each week of pregnancy like I did with my first, simply because I'm so exhausted with my 2.5 year old and I've done this before and remember things. My son keeps me so occupied and overwhelmed that I sometimes forget I'm pregnant 😅 but I am excited about the new baby and feeling him move is a great feeling and I'm so ready for him to be here and to have another little baby again. I'm sure the bond will be amazing once he's here, I just only have so much energy and my toddler takes up 99% of it.

Do any second time moms not feel particularly connected to the new baby? 😓

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