Relationship therapy

This is a question for anyone who’s done anything like relationship therapy or sex therapy for their relationship.

Staying anon for obvious reasons.

My bf I feel is a porn addict. Our sex life isn’t horrible, but I feel like his dependency on porn makes it where it could be a lot better.

For example, we can NOT have sex without me being dressed up. We have a garbage bag full of clothes specifically for sex, including costumes, wigs etc. It’s fun, don’t get me wrong. I kinda feel a sense of empowerment. However, I do feel like he’s projecting what he views, and I feel like it’s escalating. Not once in the past almost year have we had sex without a costume.

He claims we don’t have sex often as we used to because he’s gained some weight and lost his sex drive.

But I’ve recently learned he’s been using porn more and more at home. I feel like sex is just a means to an end for him now, and that he only engages me to “shut me up” if I complain about a lack. But I HAVE to dress up and parade around like a stripper and “display” myself for him.

I get that that’s usually a part of foreplay, but this seems a little extreme now.

So if we were to try sex therapy, or relationship counciling, what all is involved in that? Is there any point to trying, or is he just going to keep saying “porn is normal, all guys like that, that’s just what I like” and I have to accept it? Or will anything I have to say be taken into consideration?

What advice have you gotten as a result of this therapy? Did it work?