Life with a newborn&toddler 😖

Ive dealt with anxiety pretty much since I was in middle school... I had been managing it pretty well during my pregnancy even with everything going on in this world. Baby boy is 4 weeks old today and the last 2 weeks have been very hard on me... I am the type of person that seeing a dirty house/anything out/dishes piling up in the sink/laundry not folded or done/etc. it makes me anxious and stresses me out. The last 2 weeks all of a sudden my lil guy wants NOTHING to do with his swing or laying down anywhere. He only wants to be held and wakes up crying as soon as I try to lay him down... then my toddler wants me to play with her etc and it’s like impossible to do things with her when I’m constantly having to hold him. I’ve tried the wrap and it worked for about 3 days but now he doesn’t like that either and cries. But as soon as I take him out of my wrap and hold him like normal he is fine.... it’s just been a really long week I haven’t showered in 3 days and everywhere I look it’s a disaster... I know I’m getting easily frustrated with my toddler too and am feeling so guilty for snapping when she just wants me to do things but I can’t do then when I’m nursing/holding him... I just needed to vent I guess and maybe see if any other moms are struggling with this too? Is there any advice on ways to get him to sleep without needing to hold him? My daughter wasn’t like this so I’m not sure what else to do..