I hate dating in every sense at this point. I don’t meet people in my day to day life so my only option is internet dating but omg it is so annoying. You go through all this time to create a profile with a decent amount of information, or if you’re me a proceed at your own risk, and conversation just drag.

Firstly, some of these guys could be hotter than the sun and incredibly sweet but if they have nothing on their profile except for pics I’m going to assume they are only there for sex and that’s not what I’m there for.

Secondly, most of these people make it so hard to hold a conversation. I feel like I’m pulling teeth. This isn’t fun. It’s work and gives me anxiety. I need them to give me something anything to have a conversation.

Thirdly, I make it clear what I want and what I’m looking for through my profiles and in messages. I don’t know about anyone else but after messaging people for half a day (creating clear boundaries and seemingly being on the same page) I don’t want to hear how you want to “cuddle” with me. I think they think they are being cute but again I stress a slow approach to this let’s get to know each and ease into this and see what happens. I honestly think this guy got mad at my boundaries because he just stopped messaging me.

I’m just saying this is why I have trust issues or something. I don’t want someone to just tell me what I want to hear. What does that get anyone? If you want an immediate physical connection that’s not going to be with me so don’t say you agree with me then get mad when I establish the same boundaries again and again.

Am I being judge-y or overdramatic here? I understand that you need to talk to a lot of people to actually make a connection with someone but some of these conversations are honestly just painful.

And I really don’t understand the leading people on thing. Seriously what does that help?