Help me out

So I had my daughter 3years ago and after my body have never been the same I’m so insecure about how I look and I literally get disgusted with my anytime I look in the mirror I have tried working out and eating right I even tried starving myself I just don’t know what to do this is really stubborn body fat but I’m just so disappointed with how I look and my friends are so in shape and get hit on by guys and then it’s me the fat blob that’s big and ugly any tips on what I can do for stubborn body fat? Please help me out