Am I The Jerk?

I’m a member of a local parents group on Facebook. Parents can get on and ask for whatever type of help they need, and if you choose to help it must be given free of charge.

I try to give back as much as I can because I remember a time in my life when I struggled with getting basic necessities for myself, and without the kindness of others I would have been starving on the street.

Fast forward 11 years, and I’m in a much better position.

So there’s a mom who gets on every so often asking for help for her baby girl. The baby has health problems and they frequently have to travel to a hospital several hours away for her care. I understand those expenses can really eat at your finances.

Well, this time I am in a position where I could help give something that was on the baby’s list of needed things. Just some of my little girl’s outgrown clothes. I couldn’t stand the thought of a baby going without and being cold because they’ve outgrown their little clothes. So I filled up a shopping bag with outfits, socks, a hat, and a coat my girl never even wore. All stuff I was just going to sell to Once Upon A Child anyway. I messaged her and told her I was able to fill up a bag for her and set up a time to meet. Well, every other night now she’s messaged me asking for more stuff. I agreed to clothes because I knew that’s what I could do. But I’m getting messages asking for specific brands of bottles and sippy cups, along with very specific toy request, and just many other items that I guess people aren’t offering to her on her original post. I told her I would look for what I could, but that I didn’t have most of those things she was asking for.

My little girl isn’t quite 20 months old yet, so she’s still playing with the toys she does have. And still using all her sippy cups, etc.

I haven’t said anything else to this girl, and we’re still set to meet soon, but honestly I’m getting annoyed that she just keeps asking for more and more. I just feel like it’s rude on her part, when I was struggling I didn’t behave the same way so maybe it’s just me.

If I ask my husband what he thinks about it he’d probably tell me to tell her to forget it if the clothes don’t seem to be enough for her. I don’t want to be that person though, I agreed to something and I’m going to see it through.