At what point do you call it quits?

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Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their significant other? I know this is awful to say... but sometimes I don’t know why I married this guy. He is not the same person he was when we were dating/engaged... he’s a completely different person. I know people evolve.. but this isn’t it. It’s like he hid his true personality or something. 
I could write a book of things he has done/said over our almost 3 years of marriage. It’s embarrassing to even make this post... but I’m being honest when I say I’m struggling.

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How long did you know him before you got married? “They” say that people don’t show their true character in a relationship until a year in. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Wish I could hug you.

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I am so unbelievably sad to hear this! But I am so proud of your honesty. I believe that people can change drastically over time, and I also believe that no one should stay with someone who isn’t a fit for them. If you have given it your all, and you still don’t feel as though the spark is there, perhaps it would be better to end it now. Sometimes the longer we leave things alone, the harder it gets to sort them. 
I so hope you feel better about all of this soon💗 and just remember, you are not to blame for having natural human emotions!

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You leave when you feel like it’s not the healthiest option for both of you anymore. He deserves someone who is in love with him, and you deserve to have a partner you feel like you know and love. I’m sorry you’re going through this but there’s absolutely nothing wrong with a relationship ending because the two people in it grew in different directions, evolved in different ways.

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I applaud your honesty, I’m sure it wasn’t easy to type out. 
Has anything specific happened in the last 3 years? Did you date for awhile before marriage? Live together before?

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Have you tried counseling at all? Sometimes love is worth fighting for, so long as he isnt being abusive or cheating. Hubby and I have been together 9 years, had ups and downs many times and there were moments I wondered if it was worth it. But weve been doing counseling for about 6 months now and I can honestly say Im grateful we didnt just give up. Theres a reason I chose this man, and though we have changed as people over the years, we are finding a way back to one another.