My boyfriend didn’t talk to me for a week?

My boyfriend and I are in college and both left town Monday to go home for Thanksgiving week. I didn’t think much of us having minimal contact Monday, because I figured we were both tired from the drive. I didn’t have any privacy while sharing a room with my sister so I couldn’t call him that night. No big deal.

Tuesday, I go all day very busy, barely have time to check my phone, let alone carry a conversation. So I send him little “ily”s when I can and now and then update him on what I’m doing. He doesn’t reciprocate, just “Ily2” but not any updates on what he’s doing. I try not to overthink it but that night I do get a little anxious; we had a fight Friday the 19th but I thought by Saturday morning it was resolved, until he mentioned it again Sunday. It also hits me that this is the first time he’s been home since summer, and during the summer we had broken up ~6 weeks, during which time he hooked up with an old crush. So I’m trying not to overthink that and decide to step outside and call him later that night. I only ask for ten minutes of conversation since I don’t want to sit outside alone at night. For the first four, he’s steady doing homework, knowing I’m only there for ten and the homework isn’t due for two weeks. I get a little upset because it feels like he doesn’t want to talk to me and because he makes some passing comment about not getting a pet together anytime soon because he doesn’t trust that I’m committed to him. (Aside from six weeks apart, we’ve been together almost two years.) I get hurt and say I’m gonna get off the phone, since it’s now been fifteen minutes and outside of wounding my faith in our relationship he hasn’t hardly spoken to me still. I go in and try to communicate what’s wrong through text and he replies with one or two sentences to each desperate paragraph.

Wednesday he says I’m breaking my promise to love him and be with him because I “tried to break up with him last night.” I try and try to explain I was just communicating my fears and trying to find a solution. He keeps saying I need to not say things the way I did because it “trapped” him into doing whatever it took for me to not break up with him and being “forced to agree” with me. We barely talk the rest of the day, which I spend with family.

Thursday and Friday I just keep busy. He keeps saying he wants to talk to me but won’t make an effort on Thursday, and Friday I’m back on campus and spend the day with a guy friend. That night, my boyfriend calls to ask me to text him back more and update him when I’m out with guys he’s a little uncomfortable with. (But Sunday night he literally said he didn’t have a problem with this specific friend unless the friend tried anything/actually flirted/etc, so I hadn’t at all thought there was cause for concern. I was trying to stay busy because it seemed like he was busy and I didn’t want to spend the day alone in my room overthinking the whole week.)

Today he drives back so he called me from his car and wanted to just talk but immediately brought up my spending habits and I asked him not to, and we couldn’t hardly hear each other over the car, and I have a migraine, so I just said I’d call him later. He then texts me that he’s really sad because he had hoped to call and talk for a couple hours and it go great and that’s not what happened. I don’t even know what to tell him.

He gets back in town in about six hours and I don’t know what to do. We have two weeks together for finals and then we’ll spend six weeks apart for winter break. If winter break is anything like Thanksgiving, where my anxiety is swept under the rug but his is the center of attention and where I beg him to talk to me and he accuses me of breaking up with him, I’m not going to be able to do it. I also am working to join a career field that will involve a lot of time apart and if this is how one week goes, it’s never going to work. But I’ve spent two years with this man, I want to marry him someday. I don’t know what I’d do or who I’d be without him. I feel like I’m overthinking it and I should just call him but I don’t know how to talk to him with all of this unresolved.

Thoughts?