if you were in a group chat with your boyfriends family including their S.O and everyone was sending their christmas list, would you also send one?

Me and my bf are the only couple who don’t live together. So we don’t share finances or anything. I’m not expecting gifts from his family (his mom usually gets me something) but i’m not sure about sending one. There are four S.O. One who is married into the family, two girlfriends (me included), and one boyfriend.

The wife and other girlfriend sent their lists. The wife actually asked for the other girlfriends list. It kind of made me feel a little left out, but since the girlfriend lives with my bfs brother and they share finances and any gifts given out would be from the both of them, it makes sense why she should get a gift too? I’m not sure if the boyfriend dating my bfs sister sent a list or not.

Me and the other girlfriend usually give each other gifts and I asked her if we were doing that this year and she said yes and for me to send my list in the fam group chat, but i’m just really unsure about it and I wasn’t going to at first.

I plan on talking to my bf about it when I see him later, but i just wanted outside opinions. If it makes a difference, everyone has been together 4+ years. The previous christmas there was no everyone send your lists situation.