Male vs Female ob/gyn

So I’m thinking of switching my ob/gyn because she just seems rude. I told her about my irregular period and bloating n such and she recommended birth control which is normal i guess but I told her i didnt want birth control and asked if there was anything else and she asked “Are you trying to get pregnant” and i said that no but I’m not preventing it because i actually would want a baby and she goes on about how a baby would ruin my life and all this other stuff while trying to basically force birth control on me. I’m like no i don’t want birth control and she just looks at me like she disappointed or something like I’m making the wrong choice and don’t give any other options on how to fix my periods without stopping me from having a baby. The only other doctors in my area that are female have low ratings and Everywhere i look there are women saying that they found that male ob/gyns seem to be better and the women are rude n such. i just wanted to know from your experiences is there really a difference? I don’t know if I’m comfortable with a man looking at my lady bits but i also don’t know if i can keep going to this lady and having her over talk me and ignore my wants