So I was sexually abused as a child by my uncle, so I may well be over worrying, but my mum sometimes makes in my view slightly strange comments... she said yesterday while I was changing my daughters nappy “aw she’s got a dear little... thing” meaning her private parts.

She has also commented on how my son seems “a good size, and will have no worries there” also talking about his private’s. He’s 4. We were talking about how she’s worried that her other grand son may have micro penis, which could be true actually.

I do remember when we were kids my brother said something about “grabbing some balls” and my mum literally said oh ok then... as a joke and actually grabbed his balls! She said afterwards she was really sorry and shouldn’t have done that. However I would never even think to do that.

Over the years there have just been a few tiny concerns of mine, but nothing huge and I don’t know if I’m over sensitive because of what happened to me.

She was also raped as a young woman, and has told me you’re more likely to become an abuser yourself if you’ve been abused. She said it as though just to make me aware sort of thing.

Am I over reacting? Should I be worried?